No 10

(Divorce)

Are there ever any proper grounds for divorce or is the husband-wife union unbreakable?   God hates divorce which is why He gave no provision for it when He instituted marriage in Genesis 2 : 23, 24 : “And Adam said this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh….and he shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh”.  But in Deuteronomy 24 : 1-4, the Bible also says : “…and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes because he hath found some uncleanness in her, let him write her a bill of divorce” .   There seems to be a contradiction here in the original plan for marriage – a man could divorce a woman if he found an “uncleanness in her”.  What is an uncleanness?  This is left to interpretation and for a while there, Jewish history tells us that the men were divorcing their wives for burning the bagels and other such frivolous reasons.  This was confirmed when the Pharisees asked Jesus a question in Matt 19 :3b : “Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?”.  Jesus quoted Genesis 2 : 24 and said to them :“Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives : but from the beginning, it was not so”  (Matt 19 : 8).   Jesus did not stop there, He went on to say : “…Whosoever shall put away his wife, except for fornication and shall marry another, committeth adultery…” (vs 9).  Those who are pro-divorce for Christians use this verse and also the fact that God divorced Israel (Jeremiah 3 : 8) for her backsliding.  Therefore they say, if a wife commits adultery, her husband is allowed to divorce her just as God did to Israel but they overlook the statement that God made further on in Jeremiah 3 : 14 when He said :“Turn O backsliding children, saith the Lord; for I am still married unto you”.   God, although divorced from Israel, in a sense was still married to her because when we read Romans 9 to 11, we see that Israel will one day be restored to full partnership with God.   In Jesus’ time and even unto today, I believe that the words of Jesus : “hardness of your hearts”  hit the nail right on the head.   I also believe that there should always exist the possibility of reconciliation between partners who are divorced; the problem sometimes is not only in the hardness of our hearts but also in our refusal to forgive and accept a repentant adulterer because of our pride.  The stigma of the divorce will continue as a reminder to them and as a warning to others.