Topic:   F) CHRISTIAN  LIVING

 

No 1

(What to do when reborn)

When a person accepts Jesus Christ as personal Savior, he or she becomes a Christian but is unaware of what they are getting into.  All they know is that they now have inner peace and are assured of a place in Heaven.  What they don't know is what they are to do and how they are to act.  The Bible says in John 4:24: "Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in spirit and in truth."

That's great you say, now how do I go about this?  Here is where mature Christians come into trhe picture and show the new Christians how to adore God in an acceptable manner.  The are many ways to do this and it is our duty as Christians, saved by grace, to put them to practice in our lives.

 

No 2

(Acceptable true spiritual worship)

God has devoted more space in the Bible to worship than any other topic; so it goes without saying that we, as His people, should consider worship as top priority.  We were saved for worship:   (Heb 12:28, 29) "Wherefore we receiving a kingdom which cannot be moved, let us have grace, whereby we may serve God acceptably with reverence and godly fear; For our God is a consuming fire."    The key word in this passage is "acceptable" .  So how do we go about doing this? 

The Bible gives many examples of how to worship God in an acceptable, true, spiritual way.  It all began in Leviticus and His people needed to have object lessons (slaughtered lambs) in order to worship God in a true manner; that has all changed now. 

We are now able, because of Jesus Christ, to worship God in a true spiritual manner in our everyday lives and the Bible shows us how:  a) Our treatment of fellow believers - Rom 14:18  b) Winning someone to Christ - Rom 15:16  c) Giving money to meet needs - Phil 4:18  d) Living a righteous life - Eph 5: 8 - 10  e) Being honest - 1 Tim 2:2, 3   f) Praising and glorifying His name - Heb 13:15, 16.

In all these verses, is the word "acceptable" is either directly stated or implied.  Our lives must honor God and everything we do must be directed to Him; any deviation of this is either sin or uselessness; it's as simple as that.    

 

No 3

(Acceptable True Spiritual Worship Explained)

When it all boils down, there are only two ways of worshiping the Lord: acceptably and unacceptably.  The early Jews learned this lesson the hard way.  When they were waiting for Moses to come down from the mountain with the law, they grew impatient and created an idol; well, technically it was an idol but their intention was to create an image of the One that brought them out of Egypt (Exod 32:4).  They worshipped the true God, but in the wrong manner.  Another occasion is when Aaron's sons, Nadab and Abihu burned incense that was not commanded by the Lord on the altar and it is called in verse 1 of Levitcus 10 :  "strange fire".  They worshipped the true God but in a self-styled manner.  One last example is where the Jews were offering sick sheep or lame ones and had taken worship to be something of a ritual  (Malachi 1:8).  They worshipped the true God but with a bad attitude.

In our last study on this, we looked at several verses in the New Testament that gave ways of worshipping the true God in an acceptable manner.   All these verses basically spoke of meeting people's needs and offering this to God as acceptable true spiritual worship.  Could we ever be accused of doing these things, say: in the wrong manner, or in a self-styled way, or with a bad attitude??  This is a retorical question, of course, but nonetheless, it needs to be asked.

If we want to worship God in a true, spiritual and acceptable manner we must worship Him with what He gave us when He created us.  We learn how to worship God by reading His Word ( our intelligence); we choose to worship Him (our wills) and because of what He did for us and because He loved us first, we worship him by our love (our emotions).  God created us in His image; we ressemble Him by our minds, our wills and our emotions.

   

No 4

(Prayer in the Life of a Christian)

Does a Christian need to be told that prayer is important?  The Lord commands us to pray without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:17, 18) and give thanks in everything.  Prayer is the life of the Body of Christ; it drives us closer to the Lord and therefore our misgivings are exposed and we can confess them.  We cannot entertain sin in our lives and have a life of prayer; prayer keeps us in constant awareness of our dependance on the Lord.

So what are we to pray for?  That the Lord save someone who is dear to us? The Lord wants everyone to be saved (2 Tim 2:4)  so why should we pray for someone's salvation?  I believe the Lord gives us opportunities to speak to the unsaved and lets us partake in the joy of seeing someone come to Him in repentance. Therefore, we should pray for opportunities to witness to people; will this guarantee their salvation?     No it won't.

Once, there were these two life-long friends; one was a Christian and the other one wasn't.  The Christian prayed earnestly all his life for the salvation of his friend but he never did see him come to the Lord.  When the Christian died, his unsaved friend trusted Christ as his Savior at his funeral. 

The Lord is in control of everything and I sincerely believe that we are to pray to be in God's will; that we are to pray according to His Word; that we are to pray as Daniel prayed.  Daniel chapter 9 from verse 1 to 19 is a true intercessory prayer and in verse 19, Daniel prays: "O Lord, hear; O Lord, forgive; O Lord, hearken and do; defer not, for thine own sake, O my God: for thy city and thy people are called by thy name".

Our prayers ought to be modeled on Daniel's.       

 

No 5

(When a Christian sins)

Two things happen when a true Christian commits sin :  the Body of Christ is diminished and the person normally feels guilty.  I emphasize the word « true » because oftentimes, we believe that because someone says that they are Christian, they are Christian; such is not always the case.  A true Christian, never remains in sin because he or she has the Spirit of God abiding in them and is convicted immediately. But, because his or her body is imperfect, it is subject to the three areas of potential sin.  They are : the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes and the pride of life 1 John 2 :15.  Why do Christians sin?  Very simple; they are not focused on Jesus and are usually starved spiritually because they only snack on the Word of God instead of feasting on It.

Isn’t wonderful that the Bible gives us a perfect example to follow when a person is tempted?  When Jesus was in the desert and tempted by Satan, it was in precisely these three areas :  The Bible says in Matthew 4 that Satan said to Jesus in verse 3 :  “if you are the Son of God, command that these stones become bread”. (Here Jesus was tempted in the flesh).  Further in Matthew 4, Satan took Jesus to the top of the temple and in verse 5, said to Him : “if you are the Son of God, throw Yourself down”  (Jesus was tempted with the pride of life).  Lastly, Satan tempted Jesus in verse 9 when he said to Him «All these things I will give you, if you will fall down and worship me » (Jesus was tempted in the lust of the eyes). 

Notice, in these passages, how Jesus responds to Satan’s temptations -  He quotes Scripture and nothing else.  Wow!  The last time I looked, we have these very same Scriptures in our Bibles and God wants us to use them in similar situations when we are tempted.  But to use these Scriptures, we must know them; to know them we must read and, better yet, meditate on them.  Trust me, it works; God’s Word is perfect.

 

 

 

No 6

(How does the family fit into God’s plan?)

The definition of a family in the World Book dictionary is :  1) a father, a mother and their children;  2) the children of a father and mother.  Pretty basic, right?  The Bibical definition varies somewhat :  “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh” (Genesis 2 :24 &  Ephesians 5 :31) .  A family, in God’s eyes is one woman and one man; any children that are born of this union are part of the family.  Picture the family as a circle where mom and dad hold hands and when children come along, the circle gets bigger; the children are not in the middle, they become part of the circle or the family. The family is central in God’s plan and through it, God teaches us selfless love, submission, accountability and a miriad of other virtues.  The relationship that we have with God is described in the Bible as a family where we are His adopted children (John 1 :12) and He is our loving heavenly Father (Matt 6 :32) providing for all our needs, both spiritual and material. Therefore, the model for our families ought to be the one that is described in the Bible.  Needless to say that the world we live in falls way short of the standard that God set in the Bible.  Who’s to blame?  Satan? Partly.  Mankind? Mostly!

In past studies, we have seen the three areas in which we sin :  “lust of the flesh, lust of the eyes and the pride of life” (1 John 2 :16).  Satan, of course tempts us in these three areas just as he did with Jesus in the wilderness (Matt 4 :1-11),  but we decide, on our own, to fall to the various temptations even though we know perfectly well that the Lord will not let us be tempted above our ability to resist (1 Cor 10 :13).  I will not go on to describe the situation that the family is in at present in the world because we all know how it is and it’s disgusting.  I’m convinced that it must sadden the Lord’s heart to see us but, Satan, on the other hand, must be wringing his boney hands and laughing his head off to see how successful he has been at destroying the family in the world today; including Christian families.  As born-again Christians, we know that we have been forgiven because Jesus Christ went to the cross to take the penalty for our sins and that He is preparing a place for us in heaven (John 14 : 6).  Also, God sees us as perfect and therefore will welcome us into eternity….(there’s a but coming), but the sins we’ve committed, have consequences and we must live with these consequences until we die or until we are raptured into God’s presence.

 

No 7

 (Applying the Bible to daily life)

The Bible is the Word of God; it is a book about love…and it is unchangeable. Why?  Because it addresses problems about humans that are just as prevalent today as they were in the days when it was written.  It is a book about the salvation of man provided by a God who is thrice Holy and who cares about us dearly.  Some say that because the Bible was inspired by God, it can only be understood by an elite class of people; of course, this is wrong for the simple reason that God made it specifically so that we could understand it. John, in his gospel (Chapt 20 :31) and in his first letter (chapt 5 :13) says very clearly why these words were written.  Since God cannot be with each and everyone of us physically, He gave us what I call the “one anothers” of the Bible.  Here is a list of them so we can refresh our memory and see just how far we are to go in caring for “one another”.

In John’s gospel alone there are four :

John 13:14  wash one another’s feet”

John 13:34  A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another”

John 15:12  That ye love one another, as I have loved you”

John 15:17  ye love one another”

In the epistles there so many (32), that I cannot list them all but here are the main ones :

Romans 12:10  Be kindly affectioned one to another with love; in honour preferring one another”

Romans 14:13  Let us not therefore judge one another”

Romans 15:14  to admonish one another”

Galatians 5:13  serve one another”

Galatians 6:2  Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ”

Ephesians 4:2  With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love”

Ephesians 4:32  And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you”

Colossians 3:13  Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another”

Colossians 3:16  “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord”

1 Thessalonians 5:11  Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another”

Hebrews 3:13  But exhort one another daily”

Hebrews 10:25  Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves…but exhorting one another”

1 John 4:11  Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another”

So, in conclusion, how far does one go?  As far as it takes or as Jesus said to Peter in Matthew 18 : 22,  “seventy times seven” and that’s in one day (implied). 

Let’s not get bogged down with quarrels and bickering or even heavy ministerial duties, for that matter and forget one of the purposes of us being together in the same Body.   Jesus said in John 13:35  By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another”.

 

No 8

(God’s will for our lives)

Wouldn’t it be great if we could pray to God to find out if He approves of us marrying a certain person or taking on a new job or better yet, getting involved in His work on a full-time basis and have the response right away?   Or if we could send God an e-mail message and He would answer us back giving us exactly what He expects of us.  Actually, He has already given us exactly what He expects of us and He has placed these expectations in the Bible.  Well, now you say hold on Dave, the Bible does not give us this specific information for our lives.  You’ re right, it doesn’t.  However, I have come to realise over the years that if we are obedient in the revealed will of God for our lives, the unrevealed will of God for our lives will become crystal clear.  You say what???  Just this – the Bible says in Matthew 22 : 37-40 that : “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind……thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself…..on these two commandments hang all the law”.  In these three short verses, Jesus has given us everything we need to know about God’ s revealed will for our lives.  Now here comes the tough part : putting these verses into practice. This is easier said than done, right?  God has set a standard for us and wants what is best for His children.   He blesses, unequivocally, any effort on our part to conform to this standard.  So, if we are faithful in doing our part, He will be faithful in doing His part.  This doesn’t mean that we just sit down and do nothing; we must be actively involved in life; we must trust Our Lord in everything and we must make an effort to improve ourselves in all areas of our lives.  Jesus often used parables to explain important truths and an example of this is where He told the story of a landowner who goes away for a while and gives responsibilities to three of his servants (Matthew 25 :14 to 30).  In this one parable alone, Jesus taught us stewardship, diligence, spiritual growth, accountability, fidelity, and humble service; not to mention obedience.  Our God is awesome and He is faithful.  Try Him out and see!

 

No 9

(Marriage, divorce and re-marriage)

We are going to discuss a very difficult subject; it is difficult because the Bible does not give many verses and the ones that are given, Bible scholars differ as to their interpretation.  The study will be in three parts : 1) The Marriage Bond   2) The Divorce Exception   3) The Remarriage License. 

The Marriage Bond     Marriage is ordained of God; so here is a good starting point :  the Bible says in Genesis 2 : 18 – 24  “..It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him an help fit for him…therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh”.  Jesus commented on this passage and His remarks should help us understand the permanence of marriage – “What, therefore, God hath joined together, let no man put asunder” (Mark 10 : 9).  Jesus was echoing His Father’s words about marriage.  Paul also underscored the permanence of marriage in the book of Romans when he penned these words :“For a woman who hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he livith but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband” (Rom 7 : 2).  It can’t be any clearer, right?    Paul takes it even a step further when he wrote to the Corinthian church these words : “And a woman who hath an husband who believth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him, for the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife” (1 Cor 7 : 13, 14). Can it be any clearer that God wanted this union be “till death do us part”?  Of course, there are situations that warrant careful examination : such as abusive or cruel relationships where one partner is compromised.  God’s intention was that the permanence of the marriage covenant be crystal clear but when you factor in the sinful nature of man, it some how gets muddled.  We will look at the last two parts of this study further on.

 

No 10

(Divorce)

Are there ever any proper grounds for divorce or is the husband-wife union unbreakable?   God hates divorce which is why He gave no provision for it when He instituted marriage in Genesis 2 : 23, 24 : “And Adam said this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh….and he shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh”.  But in Deuteronomy 24 : 1-4, the Bible also says : “…and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes because he hath found some uncleanness in her, let him write her a bill of divorce” .   There seems to be a contradiction here in the original plan for marriage – a man could divorce a woman if he found an “uncleanness in her”.  What is an uncleanness?  This is left to interpretation and for a while there, Jewish history tells us that the men were divorcing their wives for burning the bagels and other such frivolous reasons.  This was confirmed when the Pharisees asked Jesus a question in Matt 19 :3b : “Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?”.  Jesus quoted Genesis 2 : 24 and said to them :“Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives : but from the beginning, it was not so”  (Matt 19 : 8).   Jesus did not stop there, He went on to say : “…Whosoever shall put away his wife, except for fornication and shall marry another, committeth adultery…” (vs 9).  Those who are pro-divorce for Christians use this verse and also the fact that God divorced Israel (Jeremiah 3 : 8) for her backsliding.  Therefore they say, if a wife commits adultery, her husband is allowed to divorce her just as God did to Israel but they overlook the statement that God made further on in Jeremiah 3 : 14 when He said :“Turn O backsliding children, saith the Lord; for I am still married unto you”.   God, although divorced from Israel, in a sense was still married to her because when we read Romans 9 to 11, we see that Israel will one day be restored to full partnership with God.   In Jesus’ time and even unto today, I believe that the words of Jesus : “hardness of your hearts”  hit the nail right on the head.   I also believe that there should always exist the possibility of reconciliation between partners who are divorced; the problem sometimes is not only in the hardness of our hearts but also in our refusal to forgive and accept a repentant adulterer because of our pride.  The stigma of the divorce will continue as a reminder to them and as a warning to others. 

No 11

(Remarriage)

This is yet another subject that has given the Church many difficulties over time.  First of all, remarriage shouldn’t even exist because the Lord had not intended it to exist at the outset of creation : “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and the two shall become one flesh” (Gen 2 :24).  However, the Bible gives some indication that remarriage is permitted when a spouse commits adultery : “But I say unto you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for adultery” (Matt 5 : 32); there are some who believe that remarriage is never permitted except for the death of the other spouse (Romans 7 : 3).  I sincerely believe that, by far, the most pleasing circumstance for God is when spouses swallow their pride, give up their rights and restore the marriage.   If this is not possible, then remarriage is an alternative.  The same exception clause in Matt 5 : 32 enabling a spouse to divorce the unfaithful one, also enables the spouse to remarry, since the first marriage bond is legally broken. Needless to say that much prayerful thought must be given when remarriage is contemplated especially if the first husband or wife is living and single and restoration is still possible.   Questions of compatibility among children, family customs and the fact that a stranger is now in the house are all things to be considered.   In the event that a divorce occurs among Christians for reasons other than adultery, the remarriage is considered one act and not a continuing sinful state.   If it is truly confessed, God will forgive it because no sin is beyond the scope of God’s forgiveness.  In 1 Corinthians 7, the apostle Paul discusses the matter of an unsaved spouse living with a saved husband or wife and the consensus is that they stay together in the hope of the unsaved spouse would become a believer.  Remarriage is allowed, but…….

 

No 12

(Help for Those Who Walk Alone)

Recent figures indicate that 50 million adults living in North America are single.  Expressed in percentages, the numbers are : 25% of all males and 35% of all females are walking through life alone.  That’s a lot of people; so how can a person know for sure what God wants for their lives?  We have touched on this before so this is sort of a follow-up.  The answer to the above question is quite simple : We can do whatever we want as long as we remain within the parameters of the following three verses of Scripture :

1 Thessalonians 4 : 3 

“For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication”.

1 Thessalonians 5 : 18

“In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you”.

1 Peter 2 : 15 

“For so is the will of God that with well doing ye may put to silence the ignorance of foolish men”.

In all honesty, this is easier said than done but if we put these verses of Scripture to practice in our lives, the Lord will bless any action we wish to undertake; these principles apply to everyone, not just singles.  We want to get married? Fine!   We want to remain single? Fine! We want to go into the mission field? Fine!  Just do what is good, avoid impurities and give thanks to the Lord in all things.  The Lord only wants what is best for our lives and He gave us His Word as a guide.   The Bible is only a compass for our lives, not a map.

 

No 13

(Our conscience - 1)

“For when the Gentiles, which have not the law, do by nature the things contained in the law, these, having not the law, are a law unto themselves: 15Which shew the work of the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and their thoughts the mean while accusing or else excusing one another”  (Rom 2:14, 15). Our conscience functions like an automatic pilot warning system in an airplane.  The warning system will shout out orders when it senses danger.   We all come into world with a sense of right or wrong (conscience) : v15 – “the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and their thoughts the mean while accusing or else excusing one another”.  The conscience is a warning system that sounds off when we violate the law or affirms us when we obey it.  The conscience is not “the law written” it is merely the warning device.  The conscience gives warnings to us and it is to the soul what pain is to the body.   Just like pain is critical to physical preservation, the conscience is critical to spiritual preservation.  When the conscience is violated, it produces feelings of shame, of regret, of guilt, of fear, of anguish, of depression.  The conscience is designed by God to create those feelings when “the law” (V15) is violated.  Our conscience requires information for it to function properly and, as Christians, we must feed it with the law of God; the Bible.  So in life’s situations, our conscience warns us or affirms us in our actions.  Of course, we can choose to not listen to it; God gives us that choice.  But if we are truly born again, we will heed the warnings and thank God for the affirmations.  We will look further into this issue in future studies. (Taken from a sermon by John MacArthur)

 

No 14

(Our conscience - 2)

This is follow-up on the last study on the subject of our conscience.  As we saw, God gave us our conscience to be a warning system to our soul and if it is violated, it produces various negative feelings – guilt, sadness, etc. These feelings ought to push us to repentance.  The conscience functions on information that it gathers and the more information it has the better it is.  Satan, of course knows this and he tries, through our society to do two things: 1) To mis-inform our conscience by destroying the moral law and to give a new morality but not the morality of the Bible;  2) To de-sensitize our conscience by telling us that our conscience is lying and that it is not sin that gives us those “bad feelings” but a lack of self-esteem.  It’s not that we are bad but are good and we need to think better of ourselves.  What Satan wants to do is to shut off our conscience.  There is a story about a Spanish airliner that crashed into a mountain during heavy fog.  The black box was found and revealed that the plane’s warning system repeatedly sounded off  pull up, pull up”  but the pilot was not listening.  The black box also recorded the voice of the pilot who said, just before slamming into the mountain, “shut up, gringo” and turned the warning system off.  Many people died because the pilot refused to listen to the warnings.  Our conscience is the same – we can heed its warnings or choose to shut it off.

 

No 15

(Our conscience, final part)

This is the last of a study about our conscience.  Up to now, we have seen that it is a warning system that God gave us.  The Apostle Paul, in his letters, gave warnings about the effectiveness of our consciences.  He warned about : a) Muddying it  “Howbeit there is not in every man that knowledge: for some with conscience of the idol unto this hour eat it as a thing offered unto an idol; and their conscience being weak is defiled”  (1 Cor 8:7)   b) Callusing it  “For if any man see thee which hast knowledge sit at meat in the idol’s temple, shall not the conscience of him which is weak be emboldened to eat those things which are offered to idols” (v10)   c) Wounding it  “But when ye sin so against the brethren, and wound their weak conscience, ye sin against Christ”  (v12)   d) Burning or searing it  “Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron” (1 Tim 4:2).  The battle, in our lives is fought on the inside, not the outside. There are three types of people in the world – Those who are in the battle; those who watch the battle pass in front of them and those who don’t even know that there is a battle.   If we lose it on the inside, James says : “But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. 15Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death  (James 1:14,15). If we want to win the battle with sin, there are only two ways to do it:  1) To fully inform our conscience by having a high understanding of Scripture, the Holy Law of God.  I don’t mean spiritual snacking; I mean feasting on the Word.  2) To learn to respond to our conscience’s warning signals; remember the Spanish pilot?  God is a loving heavenly Father who wants no one to perish; but, at the same time, He is a Holy God and cannot tolerate unpunished sin.  (These three lessons were taken from a sermon by John MacArthur)

 

No 16

(Is Life Really All Vanity? – Ecclesiastes)

The book of Ecclesiastes (one of my favourites) paints a very grim picture of what life is

here on earth.  Words such as vanity of vanities and vexation of spirit appear quite often

during the book and the writer of Ecclesiastes (probably Solomon) even stated

wherefore I praised the dead which are already dead more than the living which are yet

alive (ch 4:2). I believe the writer had come to a point in his life where he was disgusted

with what he had done and was feeling guilt, shame and remorse for the lifestyle that he

had had.  God had made him the wisest of all kings and had blessed him with earthly

riches “I have given thee a wise and an understanding heart; so that there was none like

thee before thee, neither after thee shall any arise like unto thee.  And I have also given

thee that which thou hast not asked, both riches, and honour: so that there shall not be

any among the kings like unto thee all thy days.” (1Kings 3:12,13). For

Solomon to have all this, God had only one condition:  “And if thou wilt walk in my ways,

to keep my statutes and my commandments, as thy father David did walk” (v14b).   Life

is a wonderful gift of God; He created mankind to adore and honour Him so that, one day,

He would welcome us into His eternal resting place, heaven.  Solomon had abused this

gift and was actually not that dis-similar from how we could come to a point in our lives

where we feel the same way he did.  However, toward the end of his book, he gives us a

formula to avoid having to go through difficult periods; he said  “Fear God, and keep his

commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” (ch 12:13b). Wiser words were never

spoken.

 

No 17

(When a Christian Backslides)

We all know of at least one person who has backslidden in his or her Christian life and there is nothing more sad to see than a person who has been saved and who turns from their Heavenly Father, who loves them so much that “He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish but have everlasting life” (John 3:16).  What exactly is a backslidden Christian?  Is it someone who was never saved in the first place, therefore he or she simply refused God’s gift of salvation?  Or is it someone who was saved and who lost his or her salvation?  I believe that neither one of these excuses are exact.  That first one (never saved) is what I call a cop-out; in other words, people use this excuse to sin and have the best of both worlds. They are “As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly.” (Proverbs 26:11).  The second one (lost salvation) is totally unbiblical; one cannot lose salvation; it is a gift of God.  So I ask again, what is a backslidden Christian?  I believe the Bible addresses this issue in a most clear way and gives the person a way to return to their Heavenly Father.  The account of the prodigal son in the gospel of Luke chapter 15 is one good example of how Jesus used a father/son relationship to illustrate the principle of backsliding and God’s unconditional forgiveness.  However, the strongest verse of scripture on unconditional forgiveness is found in 1 John 1:9  If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”  This verse is directed towards true Christians who sin and God forgives them unconditionally; backsliders are also in this category.  When true Christians backslide, they do so knowing that they refuse to obey God’s Word and deliberately commit sin.  Is salvation lost?  Absolutely not!!  However, the person is stomping, we could say, on his or her salvation and is risking to lose all rewards that are bestowed on obeying Christians.  This person will be in heaven but, as we have seen  If any man’s work abide which he hath built thereupon, he shall receive a reward. If any man’s work shall be burned, he shall suffer loss: but he himself shall be saved; yet so as by fire.” (1 Corinthians 3:14, 15)

 

No 18

(Our Emotions)

Can we trust our emotions?  God gave them to us and they are part of the human make-up.  The Lord said in Genesis 1:26a  let us make man in our image, after our likeness” ; I don’t think the Lord was referring to physical appearance here, I believe He was referring to spiritual resemblance.  We are like God in three ways – our intelligence, our will and our emotions; they all play a role in our relationship with Him.  So what about negative emotions such as worry, guilt, passion, anger, sorrow? They are emotions just as love, happiness, joy, etc.  We will look at one of these negative emotions in our study today : worry.  The pressures of modern life can be staggering and coping with stress, family tragedies, and unscrupulous people is becoming more and more difficult. Unfortunately, Christians are not excluded when it comes to experiencing this crippling emotion.  Experts say that worry comes from within and 90% of it comes from situations over which we have no control; the remaining 10% will, generally work itself out. Therefore, must we as Christians cave in and become victims of our fast-paced society?  Absolutely not!!  Here are some practical suggestions to handle worry : 1) Trust in the Lord  (Psalm 43:5)  2) Don’t forget to pray (Philippians 4:6,7)  3) Live by the day (Matthew 6:34)  4) Remember God’s faithfulness (Lamentations 3:22,23)  5) Be aware of God’s presence (Hebrews 13:5,6)  6) Believe God for every need (Matthew 6:30-33).  These suggestions help us to cope with worry; they worked for me.  I have a poster on my wall that contains the following verse  But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31.  Let’s be like eagles!!

 

No 19

(Our emotions – guilt)

A common emotional problem confronting Christians is guilt; some feel beaten down and overwhelmed by it.  Oftentimes, guilt is felt by the most high-principled and sin-sensitive people.  There are two types of guilt – objective and subjective.  The first is real; the other is not; it is only a misdirected feeling.    The first is judicial and involves the violation of some code or law.   The other is emotional and we only feel guilty, whether we did something wrong or not.  As Christians, if we disobey one of God’s commandments, we feel guilty because we are guilty (objective guilt).  We must face the fact and deal with it – confession  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9).   However, subjective guilt is quite another story – an example would be that persons set unrealistic goals for their lives and when they miss the mark, they feel guilty because they failed again.  Here are some suggestions that help us deal with the nagging sense of guilt that we may have.  They are 1) Revise our expectations.  If we have set goals that are too high for us or our family, we must admit our own fallibility; our own humanity and go on from there.  2) Establish a forgiving attitude.   We will be surprised if we start forgiving others instead of fault-finding.  Perhaps our entourage has adopted this spirit of fault-finding and condemnation. This creates a situation where the main purpose of living is to escape the accusing finger of others rather than obeying God.   3) Walk in obedience to the Lord.   If we obey God in our lives, we will a have sense of peace and spiritual well-being; feelings of guilt will disappear.  4) Ask for help in evaluating our circumstances.  Sometimes a brother or a sister can help us see what our problem of guilt can be.  Don’t forget – the Lord uses His Spirit and His word to speak to us but He also uses godly people.

 

No 20

(Passion)

The World Book dictionary describes passion as “strong feelings or emotions as an obstacle to civilized conduct or rational behaviour.”  The Lord has built humans to have passion and, if used in a normal way, can produce very good results.  It takes passion to write a 600-page commentary on the book of Matthew; passion is a must if someone is to preach the Gospel on street corners in the face of ridicule and passion is also required to play a musical instrument.  However, because of our twisted and distorted sin nature, passion can also produce negative results.  A husband who verbally and physically abuses his family or people who are jealous and envious of others are examples of misdirected passion.  Unfortunately, these and other sins of passion such as rage, greed, pride and immorality are found in true born-again Christians.  Passion is alright but when it gets out of hand and sin ensues, the Lord has given us His Word to fall back on.  Paul was passionate and he wrote these words :  “Oh, wretched man that I am!  Who shall deliver me from the body of death?” (Rom 7:24).  Paul realized that in his own life, he was sinful.  So the first step in controlling our sinful passion is admitting that we have a problem; half the battle is won right there. Next, we must decide to obey Christ and obedience involves our will.  We must make the decision in our hearts to obey the Lord in all things.  Lastly, we must call upon God and His Holy Spirit to enlighten us and to give us spiritual power to fight this sin.  One more thing that we can do to overcome sinful passion in our lives is to be accountable to a trustworthy Christian friend.  Do we have a violent temper?  Do we have a jealous spirit?  Do we have a lustful eye?  We must confess it to the Lord and accept His forgiveness.  “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9).

 

No 21

(Sorrow)

So far, we have looked at worry, guilt and passion; we will now look at sorrow.  Someone may ask : are we allowed to feel sorrow as true Christians?  The answer, of course, is yes and may I even say that sorrow is one emotion that we are encouraged to express in the Bible.  The Lord only wants what is good for His children so He gave us His Word that we might find comfort in our times of sorrow and sadness.  The book of Psalms is filled with encouraging passages that the various authors penned during their times of grief and gloom. David’s grief-stricken prayer to God about the treachery of his son, Absalom is found in Psalm 3 where he wrote “LORD, how are they increased that trouble me! Many are they that rise up against me” (v1). David was sorrowful about his enemies; we see this in Psalm 13 : “How long shall I take counsel in my soul, having sorrow in my heart daily? How long shall mine enemy be exalted over me?” (v2).  The prophet Jeremiah was sad because of the condition of his people : “Is it nothing to you, all ye that pass by? behold, and see if there be any sorrow like unto my sorrow, which is done unto me, wherewith the LORD hath afflicted me in the day of his fierce anger.” (Lam 1:12).  There are many more passages that give examples of this crippling emotion but rest assured, our Heavenly Father does not want us to be sorrowful; He wants us to be joyous.  When we lose a loved one or when we experience a separation with our spouse, or when we have to deal with a difficult child these are all very trying times for anyone so, it is all right to feel sad for a time.  However, the Bible says that:  “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Phil 4:13)  After a period of mourning and/or sadness, we say, in a prayer of faith to our heavenly Father, “Lord, this is very difficult but I trust You and depend on You to bring me out of this situation.”  The Lord will do it; He said so in His Word: “As one whom his mother comforteth, so will I comfort you” (Isaiah 66:13).

 

No 22

(Let’s Face the Issues)

In our Post-modernism society with its permissive and promiscuous behavior, a question begs to be answered – Who sets the rules for human conduct?  We will hear several answers; such as: “I set my own rules” and then there is “I set my own rules, but I always consider the greater good  or how about “I set my own rules but I consider the situation and always do the loving thing” ; these are all humanistic answers. A fourth answer to the question is simply this : “God sets the rules in the Bible and I try to obey them as best I can”. 

Here are some of the major issues that we face in today’s society – abortion, euthanasia, abolition of capital punishment, suicide, gay rights and the list goes on ad infinitum, ad nauseam. The Bible and true Christianity flies in the face of all these issues which is why we must share the Gospel with as many as we can while the Lord tarries “…behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation” (2 Corinthians 6:2b).  Should Christians walk in protest of abortion?  Should Christians sign petitions against the abolition of capital punishment?  Should Christians oppose euthanasia?  My answer to all these questions is yes but lest we forget that  The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?”  (Jer 17:9).  The government cannot legislate this type of human behavior – it must come from the heart. All right then, should Christians get involved in politics; should they run as candidates in elections?  Again I say yes, most assuredly so but keeping in mind that true Christian politicians have been openly ridiculed in the past and have had very little influence on the major issues of our time.  No, I sincerely believe that our energy and time must be spent in spreading the Gospel.

 

No 23

F) Am I a legalist, a Pharisee?

When a person becomes a born-again Christian, he or she receives a new life in Jesus Christ and depending from when and where this person came from will largely determine his or her convictions.  A conviction is a “firm belief or the state of being convinced”.  So, when a person has convictions, this is good…?  Not necessarily; here’s why.   A Christian’s conviction must be based on Biblical truth, not on his or her beliefs.  A person can become legalistic when he or she wants to impose their convictions on people in their entourage; oftentimes, in begins in the family.  Some new Christians will get rid of their sound system and all the music in the house saying it’s from the devil or will force family members to remain at the table for a long Bible reading; you know what I’m talking about.  A person can also impose harsh dress codes and forbid certain types of clothing based on appearance (what will other people think?).  Once an American Christian criticized a French person for drinking wine and smoking to which the French Christian said in response that they could not understand why Americans wore high heels and put make-up on their faces; the French knew that those things were immoral.  One cannot oblige someone else to adhere to regulations that they don’t have a conviction for.  The Bible says in Romans 14  One man regards one day above another, another regards every day alike. Let each man be fully convinced in his own mind.”  (v5) and also “But he who doubts is condemned if he eats, because his eating is not from faith; and whatever is not from faith is sin.” (v23). In other words, don’t force someone to do something that is marginal at best and think less of that person if they do not go along with your conviction.  There are, of course many things that are not marginal and the Holy Spirit is the one that does the convincing, not us.

 

No 24

(Doing good deeds)

There are many things which we can think of doing in our heart but some we will never do. It is good that they be in our heart; but if we want be to useful, we must not be content with forming ideas in our heart and talking of them; we must carry them out : “Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might”  Eccl 9:10 refers to works that are possible.    One good deed is worth more than a thousand brilliant ideas. Let us not wait for large opportunities or for a different kind of work, but do just the things we see that have to be done day by day. We have no other time in which to live. The past is gone; the future has not arrived; we will never have any other time but the present time. Let us not needlessly wait to serve God but may we endeavour now to bring forth fruit. Serve God now, but be careful as to the way in which you perform what you find to do “do it with thy might.”     Do it promptly; let us not waste away our lives in thinking of what we intend to do to-morrow as if that could recompense for the idleness of today.  No man ever served God by doing things tomorrow and if we honour Christ, it is by the things we do today. Whatever we do for Christ, we should throw our soul into it. We should not give Christ a little idle labour now and then; but when we do serve Him, it should be with our whole heart, and soul, and strength.

But where is the strength of a Christian? It is not in himself, for he is totally weak; his strength lies in the Lord. Let us therefore seek his help; let us proceed with prayer and faith, and when we have done so, let us wait upon the Lord for His blessing. What we do will therefore be well done and will not fail in its effect.  The Apostle Paul said it best when he wrote “do all to the glory of God.”  1 Corinthians 10:31b.   He also wrote “behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.” 2 Corinthians 6:2b.    Once the good deeds are done, the Lord may give us the opportunity to “…. give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:  1 Peter 3:15.

 

No 25

( The Privileges of the Saved)

 “I am the door: by me if any man enter in, he shall be saved, and shall go in and out, and find pasture.” (John 10:9)

Jesus, the great I AM, is the entrance into the true Church, and the way of access to God Himself. He gives to the man who comes to God by Him four choice privileges:

1. “He shall be saved”   None can be lost who take Jesus as the door of faith to their souls. Jesus is the only door, an open door, a wide door, a safe door; and blessed is he who rests all his hope of admission to glory upon the crucified Redeemer.

2.He shall go in”   He shall be privileged to be in the divine family and participating in all their honours and enjoyments.  He shall go in unto the King of kings in the power of the Holy Spirit, and the secret of the Lord shall be with him.

3.He shall go out”   This blessing is much forgotten. We go out into the world to labour and suffer, but what a mercy to go in the name and power of Jesus Christ!   We are called to bear witness to the truth, to cheer the weary, to warn the careless, to win souls, and to glorify God; the Lord would have us proceed as His messengers in His name and strength.

4.He shall find pasture”    He who knows Jesus shall never want. He will have fellowship with God and he will grow.   Having made Jesus his all, he shall find all in Jesus. His soul shall be as a watered garden, and as a well of water whose waters fail not.

 

No 26

(The wisdom of the Christian)

Who of God is made unto us wisdom.1 Cor 1:30

Our intellect seeks rest and by nature seeks it apart from the Lord Jesus Christ.   The educated, even when converted, sometimes look upon the simplicities of the cross of Christ with too little reverence. They are tempted in the same way that the Grecians were taken and want to mix philosophy with the revelation of God. The temptation of a refined, highly educated person is to depart from the simple truth of Christ crucified and to invent a more intellectual doctrine. This led the early Christian churches into all sorts of heresies such as Gnosticism that said that spiritual knowledge is more important than faith for salvation.  Whoever we are and whatever our education may be, if we be the Lord’s, be assured we will find no rest in philosophizing divinity. We may receive this dogma of one great scholar or a dream from a profound thinker but what the chaff is to the wheat that will these be to the pure word of God. Even when our reason is well guided, it can only find out the A B C’s  of truth and even that lacks certainty while in Christ Jesus there all the fullness of wisdom and knowledge is found. All attempts on the part of Christians to be content with systems of religion will fail; true heirs of heaven must come back to the simple reality which gives us joy and peace that only Jesus Christ can give. He came into the world to save sinners and Jesus satisfies the most elevated intellect. The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction  Proverbs 1:7   “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do his commandments: his praise endureth for ever.”   Psalm 111:10

 

No 27

(Perseverance)

“Continue in the faith  Acts 14:22

Perseverance is the mark of true saints; the Christian life is not a beginning only in the ways of God, but also a continuance in the same as long as life lasts. It is with a Christian as it was with the great Napoleon: he said, “Conquest has made me what I am, and conquest must maintain me.” So, under God, conquest has made us what we are and conquest must sustain us. He only is a true conqueror and shall be crowned at the last who continues till the war ends. Perseverance is, therefore, the target of all our spiritual enemies. The Bible says “But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved.” (Math 24:13). A true believer will endure to the end because he is saved not to be saved.    The world does not object to our being a Christian for a time if it can tempt us to cease our pilgrimage and settle down to buy into its vanities. The flesh will seek to ensnare us and to prevent our pressing on to glory.  Satan will make many a fierce attack on our perseverance; it will be the mark for all his “fiery darts” (Eph 6:16).  He will strive to hinder us in our service: he will insinuate that we are doing no good; and that we should rest. He will endeavour to make us weary of suffering, he will whisper, “Curse God, and die.” (Job 2:9).   Or he will attack our steadfastness: What’s the good of being so zealous?  Be quiet like the rest and sleep as others do; there’s nothing wrong with resting.  Or he will try to muddle our doctrinal positions: Why do you hold to these stern beliefs? Sensible people are becoming more liberal and they are moving with the times. There are three types of people in the world – those who are in the battle (spiritual); those who watch the battle go by and those who don’t even know there’s a battle going on. May we be as persevering as Paul and may we take the advice he gave to the Ephesians   “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.”   Eph 6 : 10,11. 

 

No 28

(Shade for our Children) (Taken from a chapter in a book of John MacArthur’s writings)

“…bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord  (Ephesians 6:4). 

A Chinese proverb says  One generation plants the trees and the next generation gets the shade.”  In spiritual terms, shade comes from parents and grandparents and, unfortunately, the demise of the family in this generation wreaks havoc on this principle.  Is it too late to save the family?   Some would say yes what with all the obstacles it faces – same-sex marriage, divorce, abortion and the list goes on.  Yet, others stick to the fundamental beliefs of the Bible; not without paying a price mind you, but they persevere nonetheless and the Lord blesses those efforts.

Parenting is joy, not a burden and there is no greater joy for parents than to see their children walking in the Lord’s ways; however, this does not happen in a vacuum.  If parents leave the raising of their children to others (day-care), they are failing to follow the simple rules that God set out in the Bible.   Does Scripture guarantee that our parenting will succeed if we follow God’s plan?

Success in parenting is measured by what the parents did, not what the children did.  “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6.  That sounds like a sure thing, no?  Not exactly.  The book of Proverbs is not a set of rules but rather a catalogue of wise sayings and truisms.  Children’s most important influences come from their parents, not their peers.  Parents must get involved in their children’s spiritual lives to prevent other influences from taking precedence.  There is no such thing as “quality time”!!   Raising children is a full time job and there is a passage of Scripture that describes this perfectly; it is found in Galatians 6:7 “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.”  May we be vigilant to provide shade for our children and grandchildren.

 

No 29

(A Price to Pay)

There is a price to pay for becoming a Christian – we receive this wonderful inner peace that only God can give but we quickly realize that not everyone shares this same enthusiasm.

When Jesus preached the Gospel, He did not say that life would be easy; on the contrary, He said “…If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his  cross daily, and follow me.” (Luke 9:23b); the gospels of Matthew and Mark record similar statements.  To deny oneself is contrary to human behaviour; we usually tend to take very good care of ourselves.  And if that were not enough, Jesus went on to say elsewhere“He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” (Matt 10:37).  Not only does one have to deny self, but also the ones we love??  Obviously, we do not abandon our families; this would be contrary to other portions of Scripture, but Jesus must be our top priority, otherwise we are not fit to be His disciples.

Then comes the time when we must confess Him before others; this is just as demanding  Whosoever therefore shall confess me before men, him will I confess also before my Father which is in heaven. But whosoever shall deny me before men, him will I also deny before my Father which is in heaven.”  (Matt 10:32,33).  Does that mean that I will not get into heaven because I didn’t talk about Jesus to my neighbour the other day when I met him accidentally in the mall?  No, but eventually a true Christian will acquire the boldness to do so; the apostle Paul said to the Romans “For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth  (1:16).   There is a price to pay when we become believers but the rewards far exceed any difficulty or uneasiness we may face here on earth.

 

No 30

(Knowledge)

“The people that do know their God shall be strong.”  (Daniel 11:32b)

Every believer understands that to know God is the highest and best form of knowledge and this spiritual knowledge is a source of strength to the Christian. It strengthens his or her faith. Believers are constantly spoken of in the Scriptures as being persons who are enlightened and taught of the Lord. The Bible says “But ye have an unction from the Holy One, and ye know all things” (1 John 2:20).   It is the Spirit’s job to lead us into all truth and all this to increase our faith. Knowledge strengthens love as well as faith. Knowledge opens the door and then through that door we see our Saviour or, to use another example, knowledge paints the portrait of Jesus and when we see that portrait then we love him.  We cannot love a Christ whom we do not know.

If we know only little of Jesus, what He has done for us, and what He is doing for us now, we cannot love Him much; but the more we know Him, the more we will love Him.   Knowledge also strengthens hope. How can we hope for a thing if we do not know of its existence?    Knowledge supplies us reasons for patience. How shall we have patience unless we know something of the sympathy of Christ and understand the good which is to come out of the correction which our heavenly Father sends us?   Nor is there one single grace of the Christian which, under God, will not be brought to perfection by holy knowledge. How important then are the words of Peter in his epistle:  “But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen  2 Peter 3:18)?

 

No 31

(Give and you will receive)

“He that watereth shall be watered also himself.”  Proverbs 11:25

In this passage, we are taught a great lesson that to get, we must give; that to accumulate, we must scatter; that to make ourselves happy, we must make others happy; and that in order to become spiritually vigorous, we must seek the spiritual good of others. In watering others, we are ourselves watered.

How? Our efforts to be useful bring out our powers for usefulness. We all have hidden talents and dormant faculties which are brought to light by exercise; just like muscles. Our strength for labour is hidden even from ourselves sometimes and only until we go and fight the Lord’s battles or to climb the mountains of difficulty, do we discover it.   We often find that in teaching others, we gain instruction for ourselves. Oh, what gracious lessons some of us have learned by teaching!   We went to teach the Bible and we came away taught. When we speak with saints, we are taught the way of God more perfectly for ourselves and we get a deeper insight into divine truth; so that watering others makes us humble.

We discover how much grace there is where we had not looked for it. Our own comfort is also increased by our working for others. We endeavour to cheer them and the consolation gladdens our own heart.  Like the two men in the snow – one rubbed the other’s limbs to keep him from dying and in doing so, he kept his own blood in circulation saving his own life. The poor widow of Sarepta gave all her supply for the prophet’s wants and from that day on, she never again knew what want was. The Bible says in 1 Kings 17:13,14    “And Elijah said unto her, Fear not; go and do as thou hast said: but make me thereof a little cake first, and bring it unto me, and after make for thee and for thy son.  For thus saith the LORD God of Israel, The barrel of meal shall not waste, neither shall the cruse of oil fail, until the day that the LORD sendeth rain upon the earth” .  The widow trusted God and in faith she gave.